What could be the best 10th-anniversary gift? A response to the question is subjective enough to make classy choices because anything could be too valuable or not at all meaningful to some. The tenth anniversary is a personal history accomplished by the couple’s unique merging of their unconditional love. Sometimes being married is one year of being romantic during the childless years, followed by timeless hurdling with responsibilities for the next nine years. What is worth giving for the tenth anniversary? Using “Anniversary Gem Chart” is a reference especially giving symbolic value to a decade of perseverance and continuous effort to stay together. Accordingly, diamond jewelry is the symbol for a 10th anniversary; therefore, it is worth considering it as the BEST 10th-anniversary gift. Stones last a lifetime, and no diamonds melt after a close encounter with a boiling conjugal rambling. The gem is a powerful reminder of ten years of being partners cultivating each other’s emotional growth, and rearing the children.

Love is the topic of all times that culminates in a sacred exchange of vows in marriage. On every wedding day, one could give a significant definition to it. The question is, what is love? Answer it today and answer it again after ten years. The difference in meaning is all about growing up together, a gift which can never be comparable to living with a friend or another family member. Living with someone is sharing all commitments by giving oneself unconditionally. After ten fruitful years, life has cultivated a merged path comprising joint effort for just one goal. Every 10th-anniversary gift must be able to give significance to this moment; every depth is represented by a meaningful gift. Giving diamond jewelry to both spouses will define the decade of a journey.

In a familiar song, “Diamonds are a Girl’s Best Friend,” it says: “…these rocks don’t lose their shape.” Diamonds as a gift are elegant and long-lasting. You are giving a priceless gift worth the happy feeling of how it is appreciated. Consider it as the best option for a 10th-anniversary gift.

What is the result of this mismatch of perspectives? You rush in and latch on to the woman of your life – as if there is no tomorrow – and the woman views it differently. She visualizes pain before pleasure. She spends time thinking of what holds in the future, thereby neglecting how she will hold on to the present. Exclusivity, monogamy – women yearn for that – but all at the pace which she sets. She decides the course and speed of the game.

Therefore, it is important to acknowledge that both men and women respond to different emotional clocks when it comes to developing a relationship; the sense of timing is mutually exclusive. The Big Trap is just this. You are in a hurry to grab, and eventually fall out of the race – for no fault of yours. This happens mostly to men who are a “One Woman Man” and who date infrequently. Women also are frequent victims of the Big Trap, for they also wish to become a “One Man Woman” and are monogamous by nature. Yet men who feel okay about meeting and dating many women – which I sincerely plead you to follow – hardly fall into the Big Trap.

Your earnest desire is to bring an end to this tempestuous “affair” associated with dating and stabilize the relationship – none of the wildness of dating makes you happy – you want to go steady with a single woman. Reasons are aplenty for such behavior from men – seeking immediate but temporary monogamy. A faulty understanding of women and wrong assumptions of their minds and beliefs is one of the main ones.

Another reason why men want to move fast is their restlessness to delve into the “unknown.” They hate to be in the dark for too long. The eternal question if she agrees to have sex or not, bores and irritates the man. And with every passing day, the curiosity increases. If only such men knew the pleasures of a single man, without any holdings, free of emotional baggage – they would never get so stagnated and close all doors to glorious opportunities, that lie hidden.

So what happens when you are a victim of The Big Trap? You need to have a steady and stable relationship, as discussed above. As you carry on meeting women, your adrenalin rises to a peak, you get emotionally charged, yet with the lack of proper knowledge or understanding of the woman’s nature and expectations, you fall flat. You gradually start to lose ground. That affects your sense of pride, self-esteem. You think that romancing is a self-defeating exercise.

This is where a vicious cycle sets in. The more you lose out on women, the more you start hating not only yourself but women too. The Loser Boy visits you often in your thoughts and dreams. It becomes impossible for you to improve upon your attitudes and behavior because remember that failure breeds failure, exactly the way success does. The miserable feeling amongst single men is inevitable.

Or, perhaps you might date for a little while, find someone who doesn’t quite enthrall you, but you settle for the “second best” so to speak. Over time, you start to realize, much to your disappointment, that you have settled for mediocrity – neither did you want this kind of woman, nor did you deserve her type. She, in turn, gets more and more possessive – because she is also perhaps going through the same emotional drill as you are – settling for the “second best.” Physically maybe together, but mentally, you are far, far apart.

This kind of negativity overwhelms you, and since the very nature of such emotional upheavals is cyclical, it gets repeated over and over again. By now, you would have already developed a fixed mindset: “Want to Get out of this soonest” – this very attitude destroys you further. The more you hate the concept of dating and meeting women, you are trying to evade the very process designed to improve your expertise in the area and bring about mental stability. It is time you thought like: “So many women, so little time,” as the broader your choices, the more your chances of meeting many, many women.
Unless you broaden your horizon about women and dating, falling into the Big Trap will remain inevitable. Make women an “add on” to your otherwise glorious life, rather than the “end all and be all” of it. Do not make her the reason for your existence – rather a small part of your existence. To ingratiate yourself with this kind of mental outlook is first, gather information (get empowered with knowledge), second, take the right decisions (act on the knowledge), and third, bask in the glory of your well-deserved success. Change the way you thought and act till now, and be the man of your dreams, the man you always wanted to be.

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When we talk of history, we come across instances when women fought for wars. The wars were fought when the lovers were in this romantic phase. In this phase, both the girl and the boy defy every convention, break all the norms and think only of their beloved. The passion of this love is incomparable. In this passion, if somebody hurts the partner, the lovers may even kill that person. What we read about romance is this phase when all logic is thrown to the wind and the heart rules over the head completely.

During this phase, lovers do not even imagine that a day will come when they will lose this love. Not only that, but they may also break up. That thought is beyond their wildest imagination. That is why if someone advises them that “both of you are not like each other, or please reconsider your love, they revolt against that person.”

If you experience this phase, you will never forget it. If you manage your relationship after this phase in such a way that it survives against all the odds and you continue without any break-up, you are one of the lucky ones. Please enjoy the romance.

The first bit of advice I would offer for any guy thinking of creating a special “night to remember” for his lady love is this: start romancing her at least a week in advance of the planned romantic evening. Start by sending her a card. Send it through the mail, and remember to send it early enough that it reaches her at the first of the week. Let her know you have something planned for the end of the week, something special, just for her.

A couple of days later, send her a just-because-I-care card and a big bouquet of her favorite flowers.
Send her a love letter and in it, let her know you are looking forward to making her special evening a night she will remember with fondness for a long, long time.

Again, send this letter to her through the postal service. She’ll be impressed that you took the time to write it out by hand, put it in an envelope, add a stamp, and send it. Why? Because she knows (just like you do) people tend to use “real” mail for the most valued things.

Anyway … the key here is to make sure she knows this evening will be for and all about her, no kids, no distractions, no interruptions.

When the “big night” arrives, take her somewhere special. Make it a quiet place if she usually has to deal with a lot of noise. A nice picnic in a moonlit park, or if she gets plenty of peace on a day-to-day basis, and craves a bit of noise, takes her out for a special dinner. However, always put her wants first.

After dinner, the two of you can settle down for a little “together time.” Watch a movie you know she will love. Do not make fun of the romantic bits this time. Instead, try giving her a little hug or a sweet kiss on the brow when those parts come up, then you know she is fighting back her tears.

When the movie ends, be ready with a glass of wine and instructions for her to relax while you get things prepared in the other room. Turn on some soft music for her and set up a nice warm and fragrant bubble bath for her. Light some candles. Add some rose petals to the water. Then, help her undress. Pin her hair up for her.

After she finishes her bath, be ready with a fluffy, warm towel for her to dry, from toe to top. Lead her to the bedroom, and … give her a massage. Start and end with her feet. Why? Our feet support us, all day long, every day. It kind of makes sense that our foundation could use a little extra attention, right? And if she has a job that requires her to stand a lot, she will appreciate this all the more. Heck, she may even start to believe you morphed into a hero or some kind of god.

Remember, this night is for her, so even though you may be turned on as all-get-out from the cuddling through the movie, the hands-on experience of the massage, and being subjected to all manner of nudity while she soaked in the nice, fragrant bubble bath you prepared for her, you should be fully prepared to end the night without sex – unless it is without a doubt what she wants.

Most folks profess to want more romance in their lives. Indeed, romance is a goal unto itself, or at least high on the list of goals for their love relationships.

But if having romance in our committed love relationships is a highly prized goal, and if so many people want more of it in their lives, how can we create, cultivate, and encourage it? What concrete steps can we take to make sure that romance takes seed and flourishes?

The purpose of this article is to explore the idea that romance begins in your heart center and grows outward, to some significant degree, a reflection of how you feel about yourself. In other words, you can create the conditions that allow you to experience and express romance with another more easily by romancing yourself first.

Listen: your capacity to love and accept yourself is the measure of your capacity to love and accept others. The same can be for romance: your ability and willingness to create romance within yourself is a sign of the romance you can help develop in a committed and loving relationship.

True romance isn’t just about flowers and poems. Flowers and poems are great, of course, but are just an extension of a feeling that comes from within, something that starts in, and flows from, the heart. Without that heart-felt feeling, flowers and poems are but an attempt be to romantic, not an expression of true romance.

So how do you create more romance in your life? Begin by romancing yourself. Love, accept and forgive yourself on a deep level. Treat yourself with respect and understanding. Buy yourself flowers. Write yourself a poem. Treat yourself with respect and dignity. And remember: if you don’t love yourself first, you can’t truly love another.

And remember that it is far more valuable to be the right person than to find the right person. Our relationships are a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. Romance, too, is a reflection of that inner state. By first creating romance within, you’ll be well on your way to creating more romance in your life.