Romance, for a woman, is more about you getting into her head and less about you getting in her bed. See, when it comes to relationship-py stuff, women tend to be emotional, whereas guys react more to the physical. The most important thing to remember when “romancing” the ladies is that, to her – it is not about sex.
The first bit of advice I would offer for any guy thinking of creating a special “night to remember” for his lady love is this: start romancing her at least a week in advance of the planned romantic evening. Start by sending her a card. Send it through the mail, and remember to send it early enough that it reaches her at the first of the week. Let her know you have something planned for the end of the week, something special, just for her.
A couple of days later, send her a just-because-I-care card and a big bouquet of her favorite flowers.
Send her a love letter and in it, let her know you are looking forward to making her special evening a night she will remember with fondness for a long, long time.
Again, send this letter to her through the postal service. She’ll be impressed that you took the time to write it out by hand, put it in an envelope, add a stamp, and send it. Why? Because she knows (just like you do) people tend to use “real” mail for the most valued things.
Anyway … the key here is to make sure she knows this evening will be for and all about her, no kids, no distractions, no interruptions.
When the “big night” arrives, take her somewhere special. Make it a quiet place if she usually has to deal with a lot of noise. A nice picnic in a moonlit park, or if she gets plenty of peace on a day-to-day basis, and craves a bit of noise, takes her out for a special dinner. However, always put her wants first.
After dinner, the two of you can settle down for a little “together time.” Watch a movie you know she will love. Do not make fun of the romantic bits this time. Instead, try giving her a little hug or a sweet kiss on the brow when those parts come up, then you know she is fighting back her tears.
When the movie ends, be ready with a glass of wine and instructions for her to relax while you get things prepared in the other room. Turn on some soft music for her and set up a nice warm and fragrant bubble bath for her. Light some candles. Add some rose petals to the water. Then, help her undress. Pin her hair up for her.
After she finishes her bath, be ready with a fluffy, warm towel for her to dry, from toe to top. Lead her to the bedroom, and … give her a massage. Start and end with her feet. Why? Our feet support us, all day long, every day. It kind of makes sense that our foundation could use a little extra attention, right? And if she has a job that requires her to stand a lot, she will appreciate this all the more. Heck, she may even start to believe you morphed into a hero or some kind of god.
Remember, this night is for her, so even though you may be turned on as all-get-out from the cuddling through the movie, the hands-on experience of the massage, and being subjected to all manner of nudity while she soaked in the nice, fragrant bubble bath you prepared for her, you should be fully prepared to end the night without sex – unless it is without a doubt what she wants.
